About how to build your self-positioning, I did some research, the experts mentioned that “the first stage is finding your self-worth orientation, which refers to the individual self-worth orientation or choice and self-worth, decided the man pointed to a particular object (including itself) and social behaviour in specific situations, and people around the world and as the object of the relationship between self and others, is also decided by its value orientation and value condition.”
On the external environmental pressure under the condition of relatively stable, a kind of attitude and behaviour consistency between high and low, or the size of the effect of specific behaviour, depends on the attitude of how to moderate, namely whether the attitude itself in the centre of the personal value system, whether the individual has special important meaning.
In other words, when people have a clear self-positioning, they are not affected by the environment. On the contrary, their self-positioning is not obvious, but they are easily affected by the environment and often change.
It is very personally, different people have different background, people at different level of education have different expectations for their future development. For example, a graduate student from a famous university has higher expectations for finding a job than an ordinary university graduate, and the high background determines the choice and status of self-worth, so they after graduation to find a job when high expectations of myself, hope to find a job is perfect in every aspects, however, they didn’t have any work experience, has no job resources. As a result, because there is no find a high-paying job, in a small company and wasted their learning background, daily lamented the reality of the society. But that’s just a few people who do not have a clear self-positioning.
This is also due to the blurring of cognitive boundaries.
some reference:
the internationalization of higher education as a site of self-positioning:intersecting imagination of Chinese international students and universities in Japan.(https://open.library.ubc.ca/cIRcle/collections/ubctheses/24/items/1.0103382)